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Rules for the School of Life

1. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life. Each day you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think your assignments are stupid and irrelevant but each one has a purpose that is special for you.

2. An assignment will be repeated until you have learned that lesson. Do you find yourself experiencing the same (unpleasant) event again and again? One of your current learning projects is to discover whatever you need to do so it either stops happening or no longer affects you . There are another 9 rules like this click here,

Negative Core Beliefs

Whatever your core beliefs are, they help to define your unique and individual core issues and these in turn control the way your inner selves react when those issues are triggered. Whatever your most negative core belief about yourself might be, that's the one your inner selves will tend most to "dance around". There are hundreds of core issues and core beliefs, so you expect that yours may be quite different from those held by the person next to you. Examples of typical negative core beliefs.

Bottom line issues

One of the reasons for interviewing your inner selves is to learn from them about your bottom line or life issues and to be able to distinguish these from what may seem important but which turn out to be only symptoms pointing to the real issues.

Identifying a life issue starts when you notice a group of similar and repetitive problem patterns. You or someone you know keeps experiencing these same patterns again and again through life. If it's a bottom line issue it will keep coming up in different ways, in your conversation, how you see other people, what irritates you in others, what you like in other people. It will usually stand out in the kind of work you do and how you like that work, the kind of films you enjoy, how you like to relax. Whatever you do, wherever you go there it is again. That's a life issue.

Your most powerful "life issues" are related to the problems that worry you most, but they may also be involved in some of your best solutions.

Addictive cycles - over medication and vulnerability

It is normal for people to try to reduce their pain and emotional pain is no exception. A person experiencing deep emotional wounding or anxiety is extremely vulnerable and will do whatever they to block it. When the helpful inner selves in your inner village run out of ways to reduce the pain and no longer provide protection, the next thing is to try substances or processes from outside the village. At first these often seem to work almost miraculously, so the process is repeated more and more often. But sooner or later the treatment starts to lose its effectiveness.

"Is it really safe for me to change?"

Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is great ,but only if you are ready to change. And that includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The methods we describe here do work, but the changes be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you begin. Then you change with confidence

Our Growing Awareness story-telling approach

This approach is based very closely on Hal and Sidra Stone's Psychology of the Selves (and voice dialogue). To find out more about this alternate approach click on this link which will take you to our new website http://www.growingaware.com/

The process (if you are familiar with "voice dialogue") is still voice dialogue. The difference is in the way we explain it. We follow an alternative, more down to earth, storytelling path to describe what is happening. It's an experiment to see if there is an alternate way to explain and simplify self-awareness work so people can use it more easily and get results sooner.

It seems to work anyway, whether you call it "voice dialogue " or try the more every-day terms we are experimenting with. We know that other people around the world are also trying similar alternative approaches. If you are reading this and would like to make contact please e-mail us: bligh3@growingaware.com

FINDING OTHER FREE ARTICLES OF INTEREST

1. You can find over 50 more FREE articles in the Table of Contents for the book "Growing Awareness" Each separate article is linked and highlighted in the table of contents) You can click on each link on the Table of Contents page to go directly to each one of the 50 separate pages/articles on Voice dialogue, relationships, addictions and personal growth.

2. Miscellaneous articles including personal profile John Bligh Nutting (personal details and photo)

4. Bibliography - an extensive list of publications by many different authors (going back to the 1930's). Models of Multiplicity Ego States and Multipersonality models. These help trace the sources of ideas on inner self work, psychodrama, sub-personalities, voice dialogue ego states and much more. See also A Short History of the Inner selves

How to contact John Nutting

E-mail to bligh3@growingaware.com

Mail: Growing Awareness

PO BOX 133 Bald Hills 4036

Queensland Australia

Phone : 61 Area code from overseas (7) 3261 2882

From within Australia: 07 3261 2882

Mobile/cell phone: 0414 57 0016

Profile: If you are curious enough to want to know a bit about me (John Nutting) my history, training and family background (a couple of photos) my dog and even a short voice recording you can click here.