How is your Inner
child feeling today? (Checklist and Introduction to Inner
inner Child work)
* There is a part inside you and me (and everyone else) which never
grows up and never needs to grow up.
* No matter how many years
we have lived, there are other parts of us that would like to grow
up a bit more and some parts that (definitely) need to grow up.
Everything you do is influenced by whatever your
inner child is thinking and feeling at that time.
Your inner child is an incredibly real and
very powerful part of your personality.
Only when you are fully aware of your own inner child and what she or he is thinking and saying and doing each day can you begin to
grow your self-awareness and self empowerment.
it really safe for me to change?"
Please read this page before
you go too far -
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these
pages is great , but only if you feel ready to change. And that
includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make
changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect
on your life. The methods we describe here do work, but the
changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what
is going to happen before you begin. Then you can make your changes with
3. More special
Why are you here?
A Step by step
summary of what you can do
Self awareness - the
starting point for understanding your inner child
More about self awareness - learning to protect your inner child
Which comes first? Understanding your Inner
Child or Helping your inner child understand you? - Because the dream did not come to reality in the way Little Alan expected, he
rejected the dream. A new and more
detailed explanation of some early issues with Self Awareness work and the Inner
Introduction to Inner
Child Visualisations and Story Telling - explaining the process and why
it works so well (more coming soon)
Stories and Fables for Inner
Creating a "safe place" for your Inner Child a powerful visualisation and a
starting place for all Inner child work.
5. Introduction to the Inner Mother and
Inner Father process
"For years I’ve said that the basic unit of society is NOT
the outer family. It’s the Inner Family: The nurturing and protective (inner)
Parents within us taking care of our own Inner Child."
"In our work, the core self (or Aware Self, as I call
it) assumes its rightful place as the decision maker. It also takes charge of
the Critical Inner Parent so that it does not take over, especially by dumping
on other people. "
Lucia Capacchione author of Recovery of Your Inner Child
Inner Mother and Inner Father - the Induction
Example of Inner Mother induction
- an Inner Mother for Little John - My own
Example of Inner Father induction - an
Inner Father for Little John - My own experience
5. More Inner Child Visualisations - you
can read or listen
To find out more about other
inner child and self-awareness processes go to the linked pages below.
Guidelines to working with your Inner Child and her or his Inner protector
2. Characters who
live and work to try to protect your Inner Child (coming soon)
Muddled Magic and the Little
3. Main Parts of your Inner
for different protector characters - similarities and differences
4. Other Interesting Parts of
your Inner Village
The Complex corner
5. Negative Core Beliefs and your
Inner child -If you are troubled by feelings of being blocked or clamped or
repetitive self-defeating patterns in your life you may be interested in our
to the following pages on this website
about other Growing Awareness issues
Four Levels of Self-awareness and
Bottom line or Life issues
Boundaries are not “Rules” or “Walls” -
A fable about the Characters in your
inner Village and How Awareness Grows -
Rules for the School of Life
Making Relationships Work -
More about our alternative approach
Bibliography - self awareness inner child and associated readings
If you would like to see brief summaries
of the pages above
Other pages of interest - summary
LATEST INNER CHILD LINKS -
other websites - each one dealing with a different topic
My Voice Dialogue Flagship site
The latest information on voice dialogue - a powerful tool for growing
self-awareness, self empowerment, self-healing and the Key to Balancing your
site explains voice dialogue and self awareness using recognised terms and
descriptions. It is dedicated to Dr Hal Stone and and Dr Sidra Stone who
developed this powerful process and their continuing work on the Psychology
of the inner Selves.
Of particular interest in
relation to your inner child are the pages on Repeated Patterns of
self-defeating behaviour (RSDP)
My first website now in its 15th year
Most pages from this original
site are being transferred to the new Flagship site
(above) but there are still many pages well worth while reading. More
information about voice dialogue - a powerful tool for growing
self-awareness, self empowerment, self-healing and the Key to Balancing your
Balance and unblock your inner clamps
Core beliefs are one of the main causes of clamps and blockages that stop us
growing or doing what we want to in life. This site will help you to
diagnose your own unique negative core belief and then balance it.
Loving and Protecting Inner Children everywhere
inner children everywhere. A magical site with some practical advice on how
and care for your own Inner child using voice dialogue
and other skills including visualisation and story telling.
A Self Awareness site to help Men and Women
overcome the toxic influence of their Inner
Patriarch and Inner Matriarch
Self awareness and self
empowerment can work differently for women and men.
At the heart of these differences
are two extremely dangerous inner selves - the Inner Matriarch and the Inner
Patriarch. They fight each other constantly and they encourage fights
between men and women. The only thing they have in common is that they are
both dedicated to keeping all men and
all women out of loving,
successful grown-up relationships at home, at work or
We all have an Inner Patriarch and an Inner Matriarch
inside us but there is much we can do to reduce their toxic influence.
Healing a Broken or damaged relationship
About broken relationships and what it takes to heal them.
Experiments in an alternative style of Voice Dialogue
An experimental and alternate way of explaining voice dialogue using easy to
visualise descriptions, fables and analogies based around life in the the
"inner village" and the journey as we climb further up "Awareness Hill "
WARNING this website does not use classic voice dialogue wording.
OTHER LINKS OF INTEREST
Support for Separated Families
Amazing UK Life Coach Sarah Strudwick's site
Sex Addicts Anonymous website
How to contact John Nutting
author of the Growing Awareness series
Profile: If you are curious enough to want to know a
bit about me (John Nutting) my history, training and family background (a
couple of photos) and my dog you can click me
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PO BOX 133 Bald Hills 4036
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These articles, including
many extracts from the 2000 edition of my book "Growing Awareness" can help you make the changes
you want to make in your life, improve your self esteem, loving and
relationships and bring more and success into everything you do.
I gratefully acknowledge the valuable help and understanding I received while
writing about Inner Child work firstly from Pia and Pat Melody and their
wonderful team of trainers and therapists at The Meadows in Arizona. Also John Falcon
and Sergei Gorski for their guidance and valuable additions to my understanding. I emphasise that
the following pages do not follow precisely the inner child models as taught by any one of these outstanding teachers. However, many
of the ideas on this website are clearly based on their original work and the
training I did with them.
From that point I have introduced some alternate concepts,
in particular the connection between inner child work and the psychology of
the inner selves (voice dialogue) as taught by Dr. Hal and Dr. Sidra Stone. I
have found that dialoguing with inner children is one of the most useful
skills (often the critical factor) in clarifying, and balancing our lives
I thank Earl Cass and Anthony Bligh for their support and
expert suggestions and my thanks to my ex-wife and friend Rozz Nutting for
permitting me to include extracts from her own books on the inner child
With appreciation - John Nutting